Wedding Anniversary #2

Wedding Anniversary #2

I think every single TV show has featured an episode about online relationships gone terribly wrong but none with a happy ending. Yes, You've Got Mail has a happy ending but it's a movie, not a TV show. I remember seeing the movie with a couple of friends from work. We had to sit on the front row because those were the only seats available. All of the other seats had been taken. While the storyline was not very realistic, the three of us enjoyed the movie. Can't say that we found it very inspiring, but who would've thought that out of us three, two would actually find love on the Internet later on. True story! My friend married someone she met through ICQ and the last time I heard from her, she already had a baby. The other person is, of course, me. I travelled halfway around the world to meet Troy, one of the most frequent commenters on my blog, and an all-around good guy, and married him a year later.

Today is the 3rd anniversary of our first real-life meeting and the 2nd anniversary of our wedding. We're still happily married and I still let Troy tell our story to anyone who cares enough to ask about how we met because my story would be too long-winded (since I wouldn't be able too leave out all the gory details) and full of 'Net lingo. My favourite response from people to whom we just told our story is "good to hear a happy story coming from people who met through the Internet." I usually just smile in response but the little voice in my heart thanks Troy for not turning up to be one of those creepy guys you see on Dateline. :)

Happy anniversary to us!


  1. Troy
    May 28, 2007

    the lit­tle voice in my heart thanks Troy for not turn­ing up to be one of those creepy guys you see on Date­line.
    This sen­tence here just made my day. :) Love you too :)

  2. Lina
    May 28, 2007

    Con­grat­u­la­tions, Fir­da and Troy! Hap­py sec­ond and third! =)

  3. Dini
    May 28, 2007

    Hap­py anniver­sary .… Greet­ing from .… Jakar­ta

  4. denise
    May 28, 2007

    Hap­py Anniver­sary!

  5. Larawannabe
    May 28, 2007

    hap­py anniver­saries to the both of you! {hugs}

  6. I say hap­py 2nd and 3rd anniver­sary to you then Fir­da and Troy. Sel­dom can you see cou­ples who main­tain their sweet­ness after sev­er­al years of being mar­ried. These anniver­saries should be marked as an achieve­ment for the two of you.
    I wish you more anniver­saries to come. And I wish that you can post pic­tures of you lit­tle babes here soon, too.

  7. Troy
    May 29, 2007

    Thanks every­one for all the well wish­es. :)

  8. gc
    May 30, 2007

    Hap­py Anniver­sary to you both! :)
    I met my hus­band through the net also (IRC) and we’ve just cel­e­brat­ed our 7th wed­ding anniver­sary this year. :)

  9. Lisa
    May 31, 2007

    Hap­py Anniver­sary to the both of you, and may you have many, many more!
    My hus­band and I also met online…so there’s anoth­er inter­net hap­py end­ing! :)

  10. Ruth
    June 2, 2007

    Con­grat­u­la­tions! We just cel­e­brat­ed our 8th wed­ding anniver­sary and are so glad we found each oth­er (Ger­many & Texas), we met on Chat­ter­box, an online chat room, back in 1996.

  11. O
    June 8, 2007

    You have a touch­ing and won­der­ful life! I’m sure your fam­i­ly actu­al­ly admit that.
    Hap­py 2nd Anniver­sary!!

  12. rutty
    June 11, 2007

    I met my cur­rent girl­friend on-line too (dat­ing site though — Pear­match) and we’re mov­ing-in togeth­er next month.
    This inter­net thing is great isn’t it? ;¬)

  13. Mummy's Girl
    June 24, 2007

    It’s heart­break­ing to realise that when you wrote this entry, my moth­er — the LIGHT of my life — was still alive and well and lov­ing me more than any­one in the world… The date of your next entry was the date of her funer­al.
    I didn’t go, of course. I loved her much too much for that. Why would I go?
    I don’t want con­so­la­tion from any­one, LEAST of all from peo­ple who loved her (of course, she was the most lov­able crea­ture in the world), but not REALLY, and din’t even know her — not REALLY, not like I knew her.
    You know how I found your blog, Fir­da? By googling “I miss my moth­er so much”. There was J.A Rowling’s sto­ry — and yours.
    I am grate­ful I don’t have to write down about how I feel — what an UNFATHOMABLE loss it is — because you wrote it down before me.
    I am grate­ful to know that there are peo­ple in the world who don’t feel that peo­ple who have lost their moth­ers — espe­cial­ly peo­ple well into their adult­hood — need to “move on”.
    (I sup­pose that’s what the blast­ed funer­al folk­lore is all about, ain’t it? To shed tears for the ben­e­fit of the pub­lic — some­thing I do NOT do — and then, in due course, like a month, per­haps less, “get on” with your life.)
    But I don’t WANT to “move on” with my life! MY LIFE has lost the only light, the only haven of uncon­di­tion­al love (you said that so well) in this world.
    And then somne have the nerve to say, “think about all the peo­ple in the world who had lost their moth­er when they were chil­dren…”
    Yeah, it sucks — but why, WHY on God’s earth should I think of oth­er peo­ple?! Do they think about me? Will their pain make my pain bet­ter? I don’t think so! Only a sadist would draw com­fort from the thought of oth­er people’s mis­ery.
    Besides… I almost lost my mum — to the same cause that even­tu­al­ly claimed her — when I WAS a child. I remem­ber it all very well indeed. And I know that it would have been beyond hor­ri­ble, dev­as­tat­ing (espe­cial­ly know­ing who would have “brought me up”, in all prob­a­bil­i­ty…) — but I also know that it would’ve been eas­i­er to “let go” than now, after decades of love and fights and prob­lems — but most of all, LOVE, great, uncon­di­tion­al, sil­ly-humor­ous, won­der­ful LOVE. Yes, it would’ve been eas­i­er for a child to “get over” the mem­o­ry of her humour, of her blue eyes sparkling with love and child­like affec­tion, her… EVERYTHING about her.
    I saw her almost every day, and I spoke to her on the phone every night.
    And I just can’t — dont WANT to — live in a world, a beau­ti­ful, mar­velous world, full of things that my moth­er would have loved — with­out her to share it with.
    Maybe there is a way to bring them back, Fir­da. I believe in the Impos­si­ble (and no, I do not mean crap like OUIJA boards and the like). I believe, because my moth­er taught me so.
    If there is, I’ll let you know. ;)
    Thank for your blog.
    All the best.

  14. serene chaos
    July 12, 2007

    This is very delayed, but every time I think about your love-sto­ry it makes me hap­py, and very hap­py for you two. I read both your blog and Troy’s blog before you two got togeth­er, and when you did it all just seemed like such a sweet sto­ry. Con­grat­u­la­tions on your 2nd wed­ding anniver­sary and 3rd meet­ing-in-per­son anniver­sary.


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