Rain on Highway 401

Sometimes I think of someone I knew in the past whom I haven't been in touch for ages and I'd do a Google search on them, just to see how they're doing. It's always good to know when I found that they are doing well. They might not remember me anymore, but I'd be happy for them nonetheless. The last two of such searches I did, however, didn't bring up very pleasant results.

The first search I did was on a really nice girl I knew from when I was still "blogging" at Diaryland about 7 years ago. Her name was Jenny and she had a diary called Sheepish. This Flickr photoset of her Diaryland artwork came up among the search results, and in the description, the words "in memoriam" caught my eye. Further search revealed that she was murdered in May 2003.

Jenny's diary always had attractive designs. In fact, she was one of my earliest influences in web design. I always wanted to be able to design as well as she did. We read each other's diary, and whenever I sounded down, she'd write me an email to try to cheer me up. It saddens me to know that she was no longer around and that she had to die such a tragic death.

The second search I did was on a family friend, a well-known Indonesian artist/painter who, as far as I knew, lived in Yogyakarta, where the recent earthquake was. I just wanted to see if he was okay. This obituary turned up among the results. He already died two years ago, in December 2004. Apparently, his health declined after his gallery caught fire and he lost everything.

I remember visiting his gallery many, many years ago when I was a little girl with my parents and brothers. He was a very friendly man. My parents were really fond of him and I think the feeling was mutual because he gave them a few of his paintings for free. His gallery was obviously his pride and joy. The fire was a tragedy, as was his death.

Learning that someone you knew and liked had died is never easy. I hope they both rest in peace.


  1. jeff
    May 31, 2006

    Man, that’s trag­ic. Sor­ry to hear that. Any­way, can you imag­ine this? Just say, you man­aged to have reg­u­lar con­tacts with him. Do you think that tragedy still hap­pened? Do you believe that such human con­tact can dri­ve the faith into anoth­er direc­tion?

  2. Harris
    June 1, 2006

    I’ve had that hap­pen on two occa­sions. In both cas­es it was quite a shock. One was a child­hood friend with whom I lost touch when we went off to dif­fer­ent uni­ver­si­ties. I just missed con­tact­ing him while he was still alive.
    The oth­er was an old friend who I always thought would go on to accom­plish great things. I still think that would have been true had she lived longer.
    That is the won­der of the Inter­net, though, and Google in par­tic­u­lar. You can find peo­ple from your past.
    I found a num­ber of my old col­lege friends and we are now in touch and some­times vis­it one anoth­er. We’re sep­a­rat­ed by space, but that’s about it. There’s tele­phone and, of course, email.

  3. Ams
    June 4, 2006

    Wow, that must have been real­ly hard to deal with after look­ing for them. So trag­ic in both sit­u­a­tions.

  4. Holly
    June 4, 2006

    Hi, I acci­dent­ly find your web and I love it, you are a smart girl,nice to know that you orig­i­na­ly from some place as me.
    Nice job girl, and thanks
    I love you tem­plate, could you help me make nice tem­plate like you have?

  5. Anastasia
    June 5, 2006

    Two tragedies for one soul it is a lot of. You the strong girl, good and beau­ti­ful blog, in which are pos­si­ble much поучится.

  6. Maria loves pictures
    June 5, 2006

    A very unpleas­ant dis­cov­ery.
    I sup­pose you need­ed a while to come over this sto­ry of an unlucky girl.

  7. Yulini
    June 6, 2006

    hel­lo Fir­da,
    Sor­ry about what hap­pened to your friend. You real­ly miss them a lot. BTW, I love very much read­ing your blog espe­cial­ly the design. Where did you learn to design the web.. I tried to re-design one tem­plate, played around with the codes, then end up with no hope. I wish I can make one, so far I am hang­ing around in some web­sites offer­ing free tem­plates. I tried your tem­plate gen­er­a­tor.. any chance to get the code from teh gen­er­a­tor. Oh, I live in Cal­gary.. well I just moved here from Jakar­ta in 2004. Can I link your web?

  8. Paul
    June 12, 2006

    Indeed, it’s trag­i­cal sto­ries. But still it’s far of bet­ter for now, as for google did the main stream, and keep every­thing in hand.

  9. Jason
    July 13, 2006

    this world is tear­ing to pieces, its a won­der how much longer we will be here … and to what pur­pose


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