Approvals

I’ve been feel­ing depressed about this late­ly. See, all my life the only approvals I ever got came from my mum. Nev­er from my dad. My dad always dis­ap­proved of every­thing I did because I did things my way, not the way the daugh­ters of his friends would do, which was the only way to get his approval.

Late­ly I’ve been aching to hear some­one from my side of the fam­i­ly to tell me that they’re hap­py to know that I’m hap­py and that they’re proud of every­thing I’ve achieved in my life but alas, no such luck. Only my mum would say that kind of thing and she’s dead. It kind of sucks.

Any­way, I just need to get that off my chest. Sor­ry for being depress­ing. Next entry will be hap­py­ish, I promise.

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  1. Well, I don’t know how this might help you, but, there is a sto­ry that I read in school

    Dur­ing the colo­nial times (in my coun­try), there was a young woman who fought for free­dom, She was jailed, and tor­tured for her activ­i­ties.
    How­ev­er, her father was very crit­i­cal of her and dis­ap­proved of what­ev­er she did.
    Once, when she was released from jail, her father came to the train sta­tion to receive her. He was a lit­tle embar­rassed to see his daugh­ter, but he came any­way.
    In the sta­tion, hun­dreds of her sup­port­ers and admir­ers came to see her.
    It was then that her father real­ized that he should be proud of her and there were tears in his eyes.

    What am I try­ing to say?
    Try to show your dad how much you mean to oth­ers, and how much appre­ci­at­ed you are.
    As far as I know, that is the only way to please my dad. :)

  2. Some­body needs choco­late pud­ding!
    I’ve found choco­late pud­ding can help to make me hap­py on even my most depress­ing days. :-)

  3. Hel­lo,
    I’m real­ly sor­ry this mes­sage has noth­ing to do with your post but I have an exper­i­ment to do and your arti­cle “How To Make A Slit Cam­era Cheap­ly” could help me a lot.
    Please could you send it to me ? Thank you.

  4. My heart aches for you. Let me tell you why in a minute. First of all I was so hap­py to find your trans­par­ent .gifs last night. I was frus­trat­ed try­ing to cre­ate a translu­cent table in a CSS. Thank you.
    Sec­ond­ly, I have a moth­er and father who were unavail­able emo­tion­al­ly. My moth­er hurts the worst. I cre­at­ed a beau­ti­ful blog about the Library of Con­gress and how much I love it. I wrote to the LOC to make sure it was okay to use the pub­lic domain prints and the direc­tor of com­mu­ni­ca­tions there wrote me. He even likes it. It is at ilovetheloc.blogspot.com. It is my most cher­ished project.
    When I told my moth­er about it her atti­tude was (as always) “That’s nice.” She didn’t even ask what the address was. She will nev­er look at it. She is dis­in­ter­est­ed in any­thing I do. This caus­es me con­stant pain and it took years of work­ing with the pain to deal with it.
    My father passed away long ago and I do miss him, he was just in his own world. My moth­er plain doesn’t care.
    Just remem­ber that oth­ers have been through things like this too. I wish I could tell you how to find relief for that kind of wound, but I can’t. I can only tell you that I am hap­py to have found your blog and you helped me twice. First with the back­ground and sec­ond­ly by just talk­ing about your hurts.
    I put you on my blog roll.
    Sin­cere­ly,
    Bernie Lee

  5. I am not a mem­ber of your fam­i­ly, tech­ni­cal­ly speak­ing — but if you’d like to think of me as one, I’d be hap­py to tell you: I think you’re doing an AMAZING job wth your work and your life! ;)

  6. And here is my mes­sage to all par­ents read­ing this: Now, go and tell your chil­dren how much you like what they do. Repeat this three times a day.

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